Archive | June, 2011


26 Jun

This is a short snapshot of what’s going on right now:

4 Weddings (in 1 year!)

3 pregnant friends

3 friends in relatively serious relationships

And a partridge in a pear tree

Everyone tells you that college is a time for change, but post college life is just one big ‘ol pile of change. And according to friends of mine, this is one way it starts. A LOT of weddings and babies.


I am really excited for my friends, honestly and truly. This is a big step and they’re all more than ready. However, I am not. I have so much on my plate, that adding something else might send all of my delicately spinning plates out of control. This is not say I’m not looking or toying with the idea. It’s just not my first priority. But it does throw your life into rather harsh perspective when it seems like everyone is pairing up. It especially doesn’t help when a co-worker gets wind of my many weddings and actually asks, “does that make you sad?”

No, actually it doesn’t. But thanks so much for bringing it up. These weddings and babies are a great way to reconnect with friends and family and celebrate happiness and love. Which is not something that we get to see all the time. Who cares what happens next, we have no way of knowing. So all that’s left is raise a glass, sit back and be happy.


Six things that I know for sure

8 Jun

I love a good list. A friend of mine was an inspiration for this idea because she’s also a list maker and also a twenty-something self discovery searcher. Let’s think of it as a combination of twenty questions and Oprah’s ever popular “What I know for sure”.

1) For a creative person, I don’t doodle. I always thought it was a bit odd that the only thing I really draw is an awkward sunflower, like this:

2) I love knowledge and I have an insatiable curiosity for random bits of information. Honestly, the more useless the better. But I do enjoy new things, for instance I took a course on Einstein’s theory of relativity just for the hell of it. Trust me, nothing can confuse a physics student faster than sharing a table with a literature student. It was difficult, but I like to think of trying things like that as yoga for the brain. You don’t have to do it all the time, but the more you do it the better off you are.

3) Since living in the Bahamas I am completely water spoiled.  The crystal clear water has yet to be rivaled, and even though I live in Florida the comparison still stands. But really, who can complain about this?

Florida Bliss

4) I really love a good conversation. It doesn’t have to be anything heavy, I’ve talked to people for hours that more or less ended will all of us in tears from laughing so much. (I always think that’s the best kind). But I think listening and hearing stories is really how you get to know people. It could also just be the writer in me begging to hear something great. :)

5) That being said, drama free is the way to be. I strive to keep drama at bay and while it doesn’t always work, it has served me well. Nothing is as much of a conversation killer as the never-ending unloading of personal baggage. As a friend of mine used to say, “travel light – your emotional baggage should be able to be stowed safely in the overhead compartment.”

6) I am an eternal optimist. I believe there is a lot of good that goes unnoticed because it’s human nature to focus on the negative. I think it works because I know I don’t have to prove anything to anyone.  I know that I spread a little care and love into the universe today and that’s a good feeling, even if I’m the only one that knows.

The North Wind and the Sun

2 Jun

As a firm believer in all things literary, I am sure pretty much every life lesson can be learned from a book. Chances are if it’s happened, it’s been written about. As a writer searching for a new idea, this can be insanely frustrating. But as a young adult, a certain level of solace can be found in characters that have “been there, done that.” Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about my favorite fable, “The North Wind and the Sun.”

“A dispute arose between the North Wind and the Sun, each claiming that he was stronger than the other. At last they agreed to try their powers upon a traveller, to see which could soonest strip him of his cloak. The North Wind had the first try; and, gathering up all his force for the attack, he came whirling furiously down upon the man, and caught up his cloak as though he would wrest it from him by one single effort: but the harder he blew, the more closely the man wrapped it round himself. Then came the turn of the Sun. At first he beamed gently upon the traveller, who soon unclasped his cloak and walked on with it hanging loosely about his shoulders: then he shone forth in his full strength, and the man, before he had gone many steps, was glad to throw his cloak right off and complete his journey more lightly clad.”

I’ve always loved this story because I find it really relatable.While it is clearly about the power of persuasion, I think there’s a different aspect to it. We are often taught to fight hard against the grain, keep going, never give up. Those are all excellent qualities, but when is enough, enough? Sometimes we get so caught up in winning and getting “our” way that we forget to shun the tunnel vision and see the other options right in front. Similar to a riptide, don’t fight and struggle to reach the shore. Take your time, swim a little out of the way and reach your goal anyway.